Welcome to Scarlet Thread Sunday, the day I pull out a thread of something I’ve learned in the labyrinth of life.
A few weeks ago, I posted on Facebook that my son had taken a four-hour writing test at school. (We live in Texas, which is currently big on measuring student success through testing.) After finishing early, he had to simply sit in his desk with nothing to do. So he counted from 1 to 1,500. Zzzzz…..
So what do you do when you’re bored out of your skull after an exam? Or how about a school assembly?
I used to hate those. My memory of them goes something like this:
- Several minutes to get people to shut up
- Introduction of topic
- Blah, blah, blah
- Blah, blah, blah
- Blah, blah
- Important thing
- Blah, blah, blah, blah
- Dismissed
The trick was to clue in to that #6 Important Thing and find a way to keep your brain from dying a slow, tortured death during the rest of it.
So being the good mother that I am–or maybe the slacker mom that I am, po-tay-to, po-tah-to–I feel it necessary to equip my children to survive the rigors of stupid school assemblies. Thus, the first student-parent assembly I had to attend with my teenager in high school went like this:
- Several minutes to get people to shut up
- Introduction of topic
- Blah, blah, blah
- Take out piece of paper and start drawing
- Ask son to help me draw a gun because I can’t get the shape right
- Important thing–got it
- Son finishes gun and passes paper back
- I write, “What I want to do to myself during school assemblies” and complete the picture with a stick figure of me getting hit in the brain by a bullet
- Son chuckles (quietly, of course) and passes paper to friend next to him
- Friend chuckles (quietly, of course) and passes paper back
- Dismissed
Ah, so much better.
The next one was a band parent-student meeting that was supposed to last one hour, but took one and a half hours. Heaven help me. So I found an index card in my purse and wrote this:
I completed #1, left #2 blank, and passed the card and pen to my son. Thereafter, we traded ideas, with odd-numbered items being mine, and even-numbered items his. Here is our list of Things that are more fun than school assemblies:
- Watching grass grow
- Having my phone. After which I added a note: It’s supposed to be something not very fun. He caught on quickly.
- Picking my nose
- Staring at a wall
- Reading Leviticus in one sitting. Note: Old Testament book of religious rules.
- Watching snails race
- Counting my freckles
- Sleeping
- Cleaning toilets
- Reading a King novel in one sitting
- Tying, untying, and retying my shoelaces
- Watching trees grow
- Watching paint dry
- Eating worms
- Getting a shot
- Watching a clock tick…for an hour
- Listing things that are more fun than assemblies
- Sleeping during assemblies
- Counting how many times you blink in an hour
- Watching your hair grow
- Cleaning out ear wax
And then said assembly was over. Worry not, fair friends! I did catch the important stuff. Moreover, there was a handout with all the necessary information in it, so if we missed anything, I had the reference sheet.
Kids and teens are hardly the only ones subjected to boredom in meetings. In fact, my practical instruction will help my children face the future. Most adults have sat through a meeting that should have taken ten minutes and dragged on for an hour or more. At some point, you start fiddling with your clothing, doodling on your legal pad, or exercising your vivid imagination–by planning your entire wedding in your head, revisiting the latest episode of Dancing with the Stars and who you hope gets voted off, plotting how you’d kill your boss and get away with it if you were that kind of person (which you’re not), redesigning your wardrobe, etc.
Whatever you do, I can boil the survival techniques down to two simple tips:
- Keep your outside appearance steady.
- Engage in your mind actively.
That’s it. Bored to death? The school assembly or meeting isn’t enough to keep your brain on life support, much less activated. But keep your mind alive and you’ll survive. Dream, imagine, doodle, plan–do something, anything–just keep it to yourself.
Otherwise, you might find yourself becoming fidgety, distracting, and even visibly annoyed. Bad plan. Because your Important Thing may not be someone else’s Important Thing, and you don’t want your momentary boredom to keep them from getting what they need.
And now for more brain activation. Let’s talk about my writing goals update.
ROW80 Update
Reading
- Read 8 fiction books. So far I’ve read The Sleeping Doll by Jeffery Deaver; The Case of the Missing Marquess by Nancy Springer; Curse of the Double Digits by Lynn Kelley; and Sweet Spot (ARC) by Laura Drake. I’m now reading Come Back to Me by Coleen Patrick (which is so far really good).
- Read one craft book: Writing Young Adult Fiction for Dummies by Deborah Halverson.
- Visit and comment on ROW80 blogs as a Round 2 sponsor. Nope. Sorry, y’all! I had a writers’ conference, followed by massive computer problems that didn’t have me fully back online until Friday.
Writing/Editing
Finish writing GOOD & GUILTY, YA mystery.- Complete first round of edits of GOOD & GUILTY. Letting the MS sit for a bit first.
- Write one short story.
- Edit two short stories–one needs a final polish, the other a full edit.
Additional Goals
- Exercise twice a week. Lots of walking this week, so I’m going to say yes.
Prepare for and attend DFW Conference in May.- Prepare for and attend Immersion Master Class with Margie Lawson in June.
So how do/did you survive boring assemblies or meetings? What are your tips? And tell me about your not-boring week!
LOL You’re such a cool mom. Happy Mother’s Day!!!
Those are great tips. I’m afraid I’ll miss the important stuff if I do too much “active” thinking/dreaming. So I draw flowers. Typically daisies. Over and over. Row after Row. Boring I know. But it keeps me active and it’s repetitive which also helps to focus my mind so I’m actually listening to what is said. Usually. Why flowers? It’s the only thing I can draw and still tell what it is. 😉
I will definitely pass on to my kids that I’m “such a cool mom.” I’m sure they’ll believe you. LOL.
I envy doodlers. I think that’s a great way to pass the time.
You are freaking brilliant! I always have a notebook for my little one to doodle pictures during assemblies, but creating a list and sharing is genius. My husband is going to get a kick out of that, too. The key is not laughing out loud at each other’s list items. How did you do that?
I have to tell on my daughter, who has been up to her neck in those Texas tests, too. (She’s not here to catch me mention her.) For her reading pleasure after most of her tests, she reads T. H. White’s ONCE AND FUTURE KING. 🙂
Happy Mother’s Day, Julie!
Awesome! My son’s been reading H.G. Wells when he’s finished with assignments. Thanks, Diana!
I agree. You’re a super cool mom.
Blah, blah, blah <– I know those kinds of meetings. In fact, I have one tomorrow night. Ugh, lol.
I hope you're getting back to normal computer wise. On a happier note, I'm thinking you should start a count down to Margie class. 🙂 Hope you have a great week, Julie. Happy Mother's Day!!
A countdown to Margie? What a great idea! Best wishes with your meeting. Here’s to it ending early! 🙂
I want to go to boring things with you! Great job on your goals. 🙂
Let’s do it! Boring stuff, watch out: Alica & I are coming! 😉
You’re doing great on your reading goals! And letting your MS sit for a while before revising it sounds like a good idea. Hope your computer problems have been solved. Have a great week, and happy reading/revising! 🙂
Thanks so much! Have a great week.
LOL your list is great! I used to think about lyrics from Rush songs. (My husband thinks about lyrics to Ozzy songs.) But now I’d plot, but then I’d miss the “important stuff.” So I sometimes play games on my phone. Yes, it’s disrespectful, but they’re being disrespectful of me, expecting me to sit through two hours of “blah blah blah” when I only need five minutes of it.
“And the men who hold high places must be the ones who start…” I might could do that too, Jennette! 😉
I did plot a novel during one of my husband’s work events, where I was the supportive spouse who had no interest in the industry-based speech. Good plan!
Kid and I played hangman the last time we were stuck at an assembly, I’ll have use the list thing next time 🙂 But that gun thing…pure gold. That definitely puts you in cool territory!
Fabulous work on the goals and hope the computer pains are over. Hope you have a great week Julie.
Thanks, Raelyn! Hangman is a great idea. 🙂
Recently I had to wait for 90 min during a medical test (not painful, just boring), and I wasn’t allowed to bring a book or use my phone. I mostly stared at the ceiling and tried NOT to think about my current WIP, because then I’d need pen, paper, my phone, etc. It was kinda like meditating, kind of. 🙂 Still, I’m thinking it was better than a school assembly!
And thanks for the book shout-out, Julie!
Thanks, Coleen! Just finished COME BACK TO ME last night! Enjoyed it. 🙂