Welcome to Scarlet Thread Sunday, the day I toss out a thread of something I’ve learned in the labyrinth of life.
Sometime ago, I wrote about making a “bucket list” or “life list.” In my case, I turned 40 years old and took stock of what I still wanted to do in my lifetime. That list became my 40 After 40–with forty items of things I wanted to do after turning 40.
One recent day, I was sitting in Café Express with my best friend and we had our laptops open to work. The restaurant WiFi started having problems (uncharacteristic for them, by the way), and we weren’t getting much done. Suddenly, my fabulous BF looked at me and said, “Let’s take you to try on wedding dresses!”
You see, I got married over 20 years ago and wore my mother’s dress. While I chose and loved wearing the dress that she had stitched herself, when I was writing my 40 After 40 list, it occurred to me that I missed that experience of shopping for a dress. So I added “shop for a wedding dress” to my list and moved on.
My best friend remembered that item from my list and prompted me to play hooky and cross it off. Within a half hour, I was at the local bridal shop pulling long dresses with beading, lace, and layers off the rack. I didn’t want to waste the salesperson’s time, so I told the truth about why I was there and fessed up that she wouldn’t be making a sale off me. She thanked me for my honesty and suggested trying three dresses. She helped us pick, and I made my way to the dressing room.
I asked a lot of questions as I tried on the dresses. Perhaps I can use what I learned as novel research someday. (For instance, did you know that the dresses are based on European sizes? So order up a size, American gals.) The saleswoman was wonderful*, and each time I emerged from the dressing room, my sweet friend snapped a pic on my camera.
It was a little like being a princess for an hour.
But I can honestly say I got it out of my system. Trying on wedding dresses was a lovely experience, but I don’t think I want to go back and wear 15 pounds of dress to walk down an aisle. Being married for 20 years (happily, by the way), I’m content with the dress I wore, the vows I took, and the husband I managed to snag.
But I can’t do all of that teasing without sharing, right? So here you go.
And now for crossing items off another list!
- Read 8 fiction books. Halfway through The Sleeping Doll by Jeffery Deaver.
- Read one craft book: Writing Young Adult Fiction for Dummies by Deborah Halverson. Actually finished reading the craft book I started last round and now ready to read this one.
- Visit and comment on ROW80 blogs as a Round 2 sponsor. Yes indeed! Some great reports out there.
- Finish writing GOOD & GUILTY, YA mystery. Added 5,447 words and finished the first draft. Done!
- Complete first round of edits of GOOD & GUILTY. Starting Revision Hell/Deep EDITS this week.
- Write one short story.
- Edit two short stories–one needs a final polish, the other a full edit. Marked up the short story that needs a full edit.
- Exercise twice a week. Question: How long should one’s knees still hurt after stopping the running plan?
- Prepare for and attend DFW Conference in May. Received my business cards and worked on pitch; got my agent appointment notification; working on pitch.
- Prepare for and attend Immersion Master Class with Margie Lawson in June.
So what’s on your “bucket list”? What items have you already crossed off? What item will you be crossing off very soon? (Hint, hint: Get busy.)
*Note: I tipped the salesperson as I left. She had taken quite a bit of time with me and was very sweet about the whole experience. Moreover, I will keep that shop and that saleswoman in mind if I ever need a fancy dress of any kind.