When Sex is Boring: #ROW80 Update

One of my ROW80 goals is to read a writing craft book. I have found that I cannot read more than one fiction or one nonfiction book at a time. I do best reading through one nonfiction and one fiction together, but not doubling up.

Consequently, I was in the middle of reading a nonfiction book about sex, so I wasn’t ready to start my writing craft book. I had heard great things about this particular book written from a biblical perspective and, although the hubby and I are doing fine (no worries), I wanted to read it just to glean the information.

But as I trudged through this material — until I reached page 132 and threw it aside — I kept thinking, “How do you make a book about sex so boring?!” Before you assume that it was a prudish point of view that ruined an otherwise exhilarating topic, I will say that they openly covered a lot of detail and advocated having lots of high quality sex in marriage. So what was it?

Then I realized: It’s the problem with every book I toss aside after several pages, regardless of subject matter or genre. There was no forward momentum. Each sentence was well-crafted to the point of being clinical and stale. The chapters stood alone and didn’t leave the reader asking, “What’s next?” The writing style overshadowed the content of the prose, such that I was much too aware of the authors throughout.

There are some great Christian books on sex (for example, Kevin Leman’s Sheet Music), but this one (which will go unnamed) wasn’t one. I sure hope that I write in a more compelling way, no matter what my subject is. And here’s hoping that Stephen King’s On Writing captures my interest, since it’s the next nonfiction book I’m picking up.

As for my overall goals in ROW80, here they are for Round 1 of 2012:

  • Finish editing Grace & Fire mystery novel and send to reader. Check!
  • Write 2,500 words per week on young adult novel, Sharing Hunter. Wrote Tuesday and Wednesday – 1271 words. I just learned about #teamsprinty. From 1:00 to 2:00 CST, I can join in with #ROW80 wordsprints. There’s always #wordmongering at the top of each hour for 30 minutes as well.
  • Blog twice a week on Amaze-ing Words Wednesday and Deep-Fried Friday, and check-in with ROW80 updates twice a week. Check!
  • Comment on at least 10 blogs per week. Check! Commented on 19 blog posts, not including replies I posted on my own blog and comments on others’ ROW80 updates. Still trying to read new blogs when I can.
  • Read one writing craft book. Gave up the nonfiction book I was reading and now ready to jump into On Writing by Stephen King.
  • Read five fiction books. 3 down. Started Flipped by Wendelin Van Draanen.
  • Exercise three times per week. Zumba! Had a great time at class on Tuesday morning. Now I am seriously sore. I hope to catch the class tomorrow. I may need to buy one of those Zumba cymbal skirts for when I really shake my groove thing.

    I bet Piper Bayard could make this thing jingle!

Be sure to check out my fellow ROW80ers and wish them well HERE.

18 thoughts on “When Sex is Boring: #ROW80 Update

  1. Woot! love to see all those CHECK! in place 😉 And you’re well on track on the other ones.
    I’m one of those people who CANNOT toss a book aside, I just can’t … I can’t explain. I might hate it, but I push through … I wish I could just throw some away, it sure would save me a lot of precious time lol
    Have a great weekend!

    1. Thanks, Juliana! I used to have a hard time putting books aside. For some reason, I’ve become rather callous about it now. Most authors get 50 pages to engage me (which is quite a lot, I believe). Have a great week!

  2. Great title… I hopped over to your blog as soon as I saw it, wondering. 😉 This is precisely why I have trouble with nonfiction. Not that fiction can’t be boring and stale, it can. Still, nonfiction too often feels like the author is preaching, eloquently, but losing the message. I am always frustrated when I walk out of church and feel like I zoned for an hour.

    Great progress this week. And thanks for the details on wordsprints. I didn’t know about #wordmongering.

    1. Thanks, Tia! As for the church thing, the Bible is full of amazing stories, often with soap opera worthy plotlines. That topic should also be more interesting than it sometimes is, huh? (One of the reasons I enjoy teaching children in Sunday school; they still have a sense of wonder about it all; especially when I do things like teach the 10 Plagues by making fake blood in class. :P)

      One of the best ways for me to do nonfiction is by AUDIObook. I can more easily listen than read information, and I can do it while I’m folding laundry or cleaning bathrooms or whatever. I should do that more often.

  3. Love this title, and what a waste of a great topic. As for your Row80 goals, you’re doing awesome! So happy you joined team sprint – I hope to be there today as well. Keep up the good work:)

  4. LOL I was hoping you were talking about reading! I’ve read plenty a novel where the sex got so repetitious – and yes, boring – that I just skimmed the sex scenes. When it doesn’t advance the plot or change something about the characters or their relationship, it’s not needed. I wonder how many of these scenes wer put there at an editor’s request, or because the writer was trying to make the book hotter.

    1. I agree, Jennette. This one was a sex advice book (nonfiction), but I still thought the subject matter should have been a little more engaging than it was! (And just so you know, I will NEVER discuss my private sex life here. Even if I did, it would never get that title. LOL.)

  5. LOVE the title and here, here to tossing the boring book aside. No time to waste on a boring book about “sex” no less!
    You are KICKING butt and taking names girl. Wow. I love it! I am shaking my Zumba butt with you. Here’s to finishing up the week strong.

    1. Zumba butt shaking! Woot! Woot! And why should I read a book about sex when I can just read your Urban Word Wednesdays, Natalie? That’s a sex education unto itself. Thanks!

  6. Yeah #teamsprinty! It really does help, its just a matter of tuning in consistently. I’ve been doing ok with this and gotta keep at it. You’re making some great progress. I gotta pick up my game a notch before sunday’s check in. 🙂

  7. That is the cutest work out gear ever! Wonder if they make that for fluffy girls. Wonder if it would make said fluffy girl look like some sort of barrel monkey. Wonder if it would frighten people in the other areas of the gym. 😀

    I don’t know how ya’ll are keeping up with how many blogs you comment on. It never even occurs to me to track it. I just comment when I have something to say and move on when I don’t. hmmm. I’m not doing it right, am I?

  8. You’ll love On Writing it’s so fascinating as well as informative. I put down boring books quickly too. No time to waste! Enjoy Zumba, I only went once but loved it.

  9. You’re doing awesome! I’m in the middle of reading One Writing, and love it. I wish I could do zumba, but I LOVE watching the ladies come out of the classes laughing…even when it was a brutal session.

    Keep Writing!!!

  10. If they are publishing a book about sex being boring they are probably in no position to advise anyone on the topic.

  11. Great post.. I’m curious as to what was actually written in book. I’m confident your writing will be very compelling especially since you identified a problem with those that you have already read. That’s the beginning ‘Knowing there is a problem’ LOL!

    Did you finish reading Stephen King’s book. I thought the first half was great! As a teen I was a heavy duty reader of his work, so it was great to read about his state of mind/ life behind the stories. Hope you enjoyed it.

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